Comments on: Formula for Assertive Communication

By: alece

alece — Tue, 02 Feb 2010 04:58:54 +0000

ooooh – i appreciated this reminder. so simple, yet it can be really hard to do in the emotions of the moment. but i need to. because i need to get better at understanding and communicating what i'm actually feeling in the moment and why.

By: Lori Zimbardi

Lori Zimbardi — Sun, 24 Jan 2010 04:29:31 +0000

I'm with Faith, so many times I just walk away with "never mind" instead of trying to resolve the issue. Of course it does not go away I just have the aggressive discussion with my mind all night..every night along with all the others that I was not able to properly communicate my assertiveness with. Great advice. I am going to try it.

By: Kim

Kim — Sat, 23 Jan 2010 03:57:05 +0000

Wonderful advice, it says it all so wisely. Thank you. As far as the 50 states: I can 'sing' them in 30 seconds in alphabetical order … thanks to my daugh teaching me. : )

By: Lindsey_Nobles

Lindsey_Nobles — Fri, 22 Jan 2010 22:16:59 +0000

Definitely takes some practice. And it is much easier to use with some folks than others. Sometimes I find myself reacting aggressively or passively just because I don't want to get into with "so-and-so."

By: Faith Barista Bonnie

Faith Barista Bonnie — Fri, 22 Jan 2010 22:10:37 +0000

WOW! I love that last paragraph, Lindsey! You hit all crazy points I ping pong between. The part of the formula that is hard for me is… "When you did" .. because I tend to just say, "Never mind." and brush it underneath. That is really hard to just step out there and.. communicate when I'm feeling upset. Was it easy or hard for you to practice this formula?

By: Jennifer Taylor

Jennifer Taylor — Fri, 22 Jan 2010 20:52:19 +0000

So timely and so helpful. And so simple……like most great things.

By: Lindsey_Nobles

Lindsey_Nobles — Fri, 22 Jan 2010 20:03:49 +0000

Eve, you impress me once again.

By: Trish Davis

Trish Davis — Fri, 22 Jan 2010 16:22:53 +0000

Lindsey ~ This reminds me of the "communication mat" that Justin and I had to use when we were in college taking a marriage class. There was the listening part of the mat in which you were NOT allowed to speak only listen. Then the other part was the "When You…. I feel" side. When our married (for over 30 yrs) college professors showed us how to first use the mat they got into a REAL fight and she left crying! It was awesome! But when she came back to the room it was the most vulnerable conversation we had ever been a part of on how to effectively make-up. Obviously it has marked me for the better. I'm still growing in recognizing that I am holding someone hostage for how they are making me feel who may not even know they are making me feel that way! Yikes!

By: Trish Davis

Trish Davis — Fri, 22 Jan 2010 16:15:24 +0000

Eve that is too funny!

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