Cultivate Her » Influence http://www.cultivateher.com Mon, 30 Jan 2012 13:00:20 +0000 en hourly 1 http://wordpress.org/?v=3.2.1 The Negativity Trap http://www.cultivateher.com/2010/03/the-negativity-trap/ http://www.cultivateher.com/2010/03/the-negativity-trap/#comments Fri, 05 Mar 2010 15:07:21 +0000 admin http://www.cultivateher.com/?p=208 I spent time with a friend from out of town recently, a friend who I feel very comfortable with. You know, one of the ones you can let your guard down around and just be yourself? We had a blast together, and I’m so glad that we had time to visit. But as she was sharing stories about her day-to-day, I started to hear some patterns of negativity and judgment woven through them. Before I could stop myself, I jumped in with complaints of my own. I am struck by how easily I can fall into that trap, how easily influenced I am. It just takes one mention of an aggravating situation at work or a frustrating conversation with the hubby, and I can jump right in with stories of my own…and not ones that are spreading sunshine (if you know what I mean!)

This is NOT cool with me! I want to be the kind of person who responds to negativity by either keeping my mouth shut or by redirecting the conversation. And I certainly don’t want to be the one who starts the complaint-downward-spiral! That’s not the type of influence I want to have. So, I’m working on it. What if the words that we use built up instead of tearing down? Imagine the power of THAT influence!



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